Love is a skill, not a feeling
Love is a skill, not a feeling | Alain de Botton: Full interview We want to believe that love is guided by instinct and that following our hearts will lead us to our ideal soulmate. Alain de Botton argues that our romantic lives are more determined by emotional stereotypes learned in childhood than by fate. Donate: https://pay.cloudtips.ru/p/ea315feb MAX: https://max.ru/join/jZ0EqR0vxTNtGco2mHDBR4m6J2KSZAFEZ8C5F2haxrM X: https://x.com/wiser_mind 0:18 Chapter 1: Our Destructive Romantic Culture 1:50 How romanticism changed love 7:21 Cultural myths that undermine love 10:06 Chapter 2: Lessons of psychotherapy about love 11:24 What childhood teaches us about love 14:24 The theory of attachment and early separation 17:29 When close relationships mean more than happiness 24:44 Chapter 3: Instructions for Creating a Successful Relationship 26:45 How can you be crazy? 29:29 What makes therapy possible 34:45 Why are you marrying the wrong person 42:37 Social media and the guilt reflex 47:29 Chapter 4: Overcoming Status Anxiety and Loneliness 49:04 Status anxiety in the age of secularity 50:34 Lost safety valves of old societies 52:35 The need for secular temples 55:06 Love is like a bridge out of isolation About Alain de Botton: Alain de Botton was born in Zurich, Switzerland, in 1969, and now lives in London. He is the author of essay books called "philosophy of everyday life." He writes about love, travel, architecture and literature. His books have become bestsellers in 30 countries. Alain also founded and helps run a school called the School of Life in London, dedicated to a new vision of education. Alain's latest book is called "Religion for Atheists" and was published in the Netherlands, Italy, Korea, Turkey and Brazil in 2011, as well as in the UK, USA and other countries in 2012. Alain started writing at a young age. His first book, "Essays on Love" (titled "On Love in the USA"), was published when he was twenty-three.
Love is a skill, not a feeling | Alain de Botton: Full interview We want to believe that love is guided by instinct and that following our hearts will lead us to our ideal soulmate. Alain de Botton argues that our romantic lives are more determined by emotional stereotypes learned in childhood than by fate. Donate: https://pay.cloudtips.ru/p/ea315feb MAX: https://max.ru/join/jZ0EqR0vxTNtGco2mHDBR4m6J2KSZAFEZ8C5F2haxrM X: https://x.com/wiser_mind 0:18 Chapter 1: Our Destructive Romantic Culture 1:50 How romanticism changed love 7:21 Cultural myths that undermine love 10:06 Chapter 2: Lessons of psychotherapy about love 11:24 What childhood teaches us about love 14:24 The theory of attachment and early separation 17:29 When close relationships mean more than happiness 24:44 Chapter 3: Instructions for Creating a Successful Relationship 26:45 How can you be crazy? 29:29 What makes therapy possible 34:45 Why are you marrying the wrong person 42:37 Social media and the guilt reflex 47:29 Chapter 4: Overcoming Status Anxiety and Loneliness 49:04 Status anxiety in the age of secularity 50:34 Lost safety valves of old societies 52:35 The need for secular temples 55:06 Love is like a bridge out of isolation About Alain de Botton: Alain de Botton was born in Zurich, Switzerland, in 1969, and now lives in London. He is the author of essay books called "philosophy of everyday life." He writes about love, travel, architecture and literature. His books have become bestsellers in 30 countries. Alain also founded and helps run a school called the School of Life in London, dedicated to a new vision of education. Alain's latest book is called "Religion for Atheists" and was published in the Netherlands, Italy, Korea, Turkey and Brazil in 2011, as well as in the UK, USA and other countries in 2012. Alain started writing at a young age. His first book, "Essays on Love" (titled "On Love in the USA"), was published when he was twenty-three.